Let’s talk about fear for a second. We all experience it. It is always there, peeking just around the corner ready to grab us at any moment. Most of us have some sort of fear that paralyzes us completely, prevents us from accomplishing what we so dearly want to accomplish. We all have a cushy, little comfort zone. I know I do, but what kind of adventure would it be if we never stepped out of that comfort zone occasionally? Not a very interesting one, let me tell you.
Some of you may be afraid to do some things on your own, afraid of what other people may think of you. Well, I’m here to tell you: IT DOESN’T MATTER!!!
But I am getting ahead of myself.
We all know there are certain tasks that just aren’t meant to be done alone: going to the movies, going to a restaurant, shopping, sleeping by yourself (if you’re into that sort of thing…or you could be like me, who knows no different…), going on vacation, etc. But why is it so terrifying for us? I honestly don’t know, but I do know that we can push past it.
I have always hated going to the movies alone. It just seemed so depressing, and I always worried that everybody there would think I was a loser or a freak. It turns out, it really isn’t that bad! Last Saturday, I went to a movie late at night by myself. It had been a rough day. There is a lot of unnecessary, ridiculous drama happening in my house right now. I had worked that morning, and everything that could possibly go wrong at work went wrong. Then I helped my brother move (and I am not good at that, believe me!). Finally, I spent two hours at the mall with my best friend. That was, by far, the best part of the day because I hadn’t seen her in so long, but by the end of the day, I just wanted some time to myself. Admittedly, I tried to get her to go with me at first, but when she decided not to, I thought I would just go by myself. I’d done it before, and it wasn’t too bad. It was awkward, but it wasn’t too bad.
I will be completely honest with you, I argued with myself the whole way there. I came up with every excuse in the book. I shouldn’t spend the money. It was going to be awkward. People were going to look at me funny, etc., etc. Literally every excuse in the book! But there was also a part of me that knew it would be fun and peaceful and relaxing.
It was hard, believe me, to force one foot in front of the other and not think about what the people behind the counter probably thought of me buying only one ticket. My stomach coiled up on me, and I couldn’t really look at anybody directly. I even sat in the very back corner of the theater, but that is nothing new (let’s be honest—that is the best seat in the house!). But then the movie started, and something changed.
I forgot that I was nervous. I forgot that I was uncomfortable. I forgot that everybody probably thought I was a weirdo for being at the movie theater by myself on a Saturday night. I just forgot, and I immersed myself completely in the movie. (For those wondering, I went to see Skyscraper. Of course, I loved it. Hello, Dwayne Johnson?) My initial thoughts were proven right by the end of the screening. It was relaxing, peaceful, and fun! After such a stressful day, it was nice to sit and enjoy a movie by myself. I didn’t have to worry about seeing someone I know, which made it a lot easier to not worry about what they thought of me. (It’s like dancing in Walmart. You’re never going to see those people again, so go for it! On the off chance that you do see one of them again, well, you certainly made an impression, didn’t you?) I could just let go of everything that had happened that day and relax. It was the most fun I had had at a movie in years. (The first time I did this, I didn’t quite reach this epiphany. It was awkward and uncomfortable.)
Now, my question to you is this: why are you afraid to do it? Some of you may find this article completely pointless because you already go to the movies on your own. Good for you! Others, however, might not see the appeal yet. I get that, I do. It is terrifying to step out of your comfort zone, but I promise you that it will be worth it. Besides, going to the movies on your own is a pretty small first step out of your comfort zone, as first steps go.
My point to all of this is that I hope you don’t let the fear control you. I have for a long time, and I don’t want to live that way anymore. I have this entire fantasy life in my head, and I am going to make it happen. Don’t be mistaken, I am terrified of a lot of things, a lot of risks that I will have to take to make that vision a reality, but I am not going to let that stop me from living the life of my dreams. I hope you don’t, either.
Just give it a try. It will be worth it, I promise.
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